{"id":2286,"date":"2021-04-05T14:01:17","date_gmt":"2021-04-05T14:01:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/?page_id=2286"},"modified":"2025-09-30T16:42:21","modified_gmt":"2025-09-30T16:42:21","slug":"option-b-summary","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/option-b-summary\/","title":{"rendered":"B Se\u00e7ene\u011fi \u00d6zet ve Analizi | Sheryl Sandberg ve Adam Grant"},"content":{"rendered":"<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Hayat \u00e7ok yo\u011fun. Var&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/geni.us\/option-b\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Se\u00e7enek B<\/a>&nbsp;kitapl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda toz mu topluyordu? Bunun yerine, temel fikirleri \u015fimdi al\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Biz burada y\u00fczeyi \u00e7iziyoruz. Kitaba hen\u00fcz sahip de\u011filseniz, kitab\u0131 sipari\u015f edin veya&nbsp;<a href=\"https:\/\/geni.us\/option-b\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">\u00fccretsiz sesli kitap<\/a>&nbsp;ilgin\u00e7 detaylar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<iframe frameborder=\"0\" height=\"200\" scrolling=\"no\" src=\"https:\/\/playlist.megaphone.fm?e=PARSIDA5424647291\" width=\"100%\"><\/iframe>\n\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"what-is-option-b-book-about\">B Se\u00e7ene\u011fi Kitab\u0131 Ne Hakk\u0131nda?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu kitap, bir trajediyle y\u00fczle\u015ftikten sonra ya\u015famak ve b\u00fcy\u00fcmekle ilgili. Kitap, bizi Sheryl'in yak\u0131n zamanda ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 dul kalma travmas\u0131yla tan\u0131\u015ft\u0131rarak yazar\u0131n zorluklarla y\u00fczle\u015fmesiyle ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kitapta hem dokunakl\u0131 hik\u00e2yeler hem de pratik tavsiyeler var. Ve Sheryl Sandberg kitab\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle a\u00e7\u0131yor: \"Hayat asla m\u00fckemmel de\u011fildir, hepimiz bir \u00e7e\u015fit B se\u00e7ene\u011fi ya\u015f\u0131yoruz\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Se\u00e7enek B<\/em> Sandberg'in 47 ya\u015f\u0131ndaki kocas\u0131n\u0131n 2015'teki beklenmedik \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcn\u00fcn ard\u0131ndan ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zorluklar\u0131 anlat\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kocas\u0131n\u0131n ani \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra Sheryl, kendisinin ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n bir daha asla saf ne\u015fe hissedemeyece\u011finden emindi. Wharton'da psikolog olan arkada\u015f\u0131 Adam Grant ona insanlar\u0131n iyile\u015fmek ve toparlanmak i\u00e7in atabilecekleri somut ad\u0131mlar oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Se\u00e7enek B<\/em>&nbsp;Sheryl'in ki\u015fisel i\u00e7g\u00f6r\u00fclerini Adam'\u0131n zorluklar kar\u015f\u0131s\u0131nda g\u00fc\u00e7 bulma konusundaki ufuk a\u00e7\u0131c\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131rmas\u0131yla birle\u015ftiriyor. Hayatlar\u0131ndaki zorluklar\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelen \u00e7ok \u00e7e\u015fitli insanlar\u0131n hikayelerini inceliyor, krizdeki di\u011fer insanlarla en iyi nas\u0131l konu\u015fabilece\u011fimizi ve onlara nas\u0131l yard\u0131m edebilece\u011fimizi belirliyor ve diren\u00e7li aileler, topluluklar ve i\u015fyerleri olu\u015fturmak i\u00e7in pratik ipu\u00e7lar\u0131 sunuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"sheryl-sandberg-s-perspective\">Sheryl Sandberg'in Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Sheryl Sandberg&nbsp;<\/strong>Facebook'un ba\u015f operasyon sorumlusu ve uluslararas\u0131 en \u00e7ok satan yazar\u0131d\u0131r.&nbsp;<a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/hEYqwMNxWVTyjHRy8\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Lean In: Kad\u0131nlar, \u0130\u015f ve Liderlik \u0130radesi<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Facebook'tan \u00f6nce Google'da K\u00fcresel Online Sat\u0131\u015f ve Operasyonlardan sorumlu ba\u015fkan yard\u0131mc\u0131s\u0131yd\u0131. Daha \u00f6nce Amerika Birle\u015fik Devletleri Hazine Bakanl\u0131\u011f\u0131'nda personel \u015fefi olarak g\u00f6rev yapm\u0131\u015f ve kariyerine D\u00fcnya Bankas\u0131'nda ekonomist olarak ba\u015flam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sheryl lisans derecesi ald\u0131&nbsp;<em>summa cum laude<\/em>&nbsp;Harvard \u00dcniversitesi'nden mezun oldu ve Harvard Business School'dan en y\u00fcksek dereceyle MBA derecesi ald\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"adam-grant-s-perspective\">Adam Grant'\u0131n Bak\u0131\u015f A\u00e7\u0131s\u0131<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Adam Grant&nbsp;<\/strong>bir psikolog ve Wharton'un en y\u00fcksek puanl\u0131 profes\u00f6r\u00fcd\u00fcr. New York Times'\u0131n en \u00e7ok satan yazar\u0131 olarak&nbsp;<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/rdsNcgfGVyQfDrYf8\">Orijinaller: Konformist Olmayanlar D\u00fcnyay\u0131 Nas\u0131l Hareket Ettiriyor?<\/a>&nbsp;ve <a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/DWZ6\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Ver ve Al<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be\u015f y\u0131l \u00fcst \u00fcste Wharton'un en y\u00fcksek puanl\u0131 profes\u00f6r\u00fc olan Adam, motivasyon ve anlam\u0131 nas\u0131l bulabilece\u011fimiz ve daha c\u00f6mert ve yarat\u0131c\u0131 hayatlar nas\u0131l ya\u015fayabilece\u011fimiz konusunda \u00f6nde gelen bir uzmand\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>D\u00fcnyan\u0131n en etkili yirmi be\u015f y\u00f6netim d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr\u00fcnden biri olarak kabul edilmi\u015f ve Amerikan Psikoloji Derne\u011fi ve Ulusal Bilim Vakf\u0131'ndan se\u00e7kin bilimsel ba\u015far\u0131 \u00f6d\u00fclleri alm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-medium\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"247\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-2-247x300.jpg\" alt=\"B Se\u00e7ene\u011finin \u00d6zeti\" class=\"wp-image-2291\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-2-247x300.jpg 247w, https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-2-842x1024.jpg 842w, https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-2-768x934.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-2.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 247px) 100vw, 247px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> B Se\u00e7ene\u011finin \u00dccretsiz \u00d6zeti <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"book-summary-of-option-b\">B Se\u00e7ene\u011finin Kitap \u00d6zeti <\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Sandberg ve e\u015fi Dave Goldberg, e\u015fleri \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde Meksika'da bir arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131n do\u011fum g\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc kutlamak \u00fczere tatildeydiler. 11 y\u0131ld\u0131r evliydiler ve iki k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 vard\u0131. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc s\u0131rada \u00e7ocuklar Sandberg'in Kaliforniya'daki ailesinin yan\u0131nda kal\u0131yorlard\u0131. Dave birka\u00e7 saat ortadan kaybolduktan sonra Sandberg ve di\u011fer iki ki\u015fi onu tepkisiz halde buldu. Hayata d\u00f6nd\u00fcr\u00fclemedi ve en yak\u0131n hastaneye 30 dakikal\u0131k bir ambulans yolculu\u011fuyla g\u00f6t\u00fcr\u00fcld\u00fc. Dave'in ani bir kalp krizi sonucu \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fc ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131, ancak Sandberg bunu daha sonra \u00f6\u011frenecekti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sandberg \u00e7ocuklar\u0131na k\u00f6t\u00fc haberi vermek i\u00e7in Kaliforniya'ya geri d\u00f6nd\u00fc ve bu herkes i\u00e7in son derece \u00fcz\u00fcc\u00fc oldu. Cenaze t\u00f6reni de inan\u0131lmaz derecede zordu. Sandberg'in kederi neredeyse dayan\u0131lmazd\u0131, yine de bir aile dostu ve psikolog olan Adam Grant ona dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131\u011f\u0131n do\u011fu\u015ftan gelen sabit bir \u00f6zellik olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, insanlar\u0131n kendi i\u00e7lerinde geli\u015ftirebilecekleri bir \u015fey oldu\u011funu s\u00f6yledi\u011finde ilgisini \u00e7ekti. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Esneklik ve bunu ilerlemek i\u00e7in nas\u0131l kullanabilece\u011fi hakk\u0131nda daha fazla bilgi edinmek i\u00e7in Grant ile \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaya karar verdi. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sandberg'in \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi ilk ve en \u00f6nemli \u015feylerden biri 3 Ps ad\u0131 verilen bir kavramd\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\t\t<div class=\"ss-ctt-wrapper ss-ctt-style-4\" data-ss-post-id=\"2286\" data-nonce=\"e9beab50f7\">\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CEach+one+of+us+is+more+than+the+worst+thing+we%27ve+ever+done.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95%C2%A0Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-tweet\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">\u201cHer birimiz yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z en k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feyden daha fazlas\u0131y\u0131z.\u201d&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">-&nbsp;<\/span><span class=\"authorOrTitle\" style=\", Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size: 14px\">Sheryl Sandberg #optionb<\/span><br style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\"><\/a>\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CEach+one+of+us+is+more+than+the+worst+thing+we%27ve+ever+done.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95%C2%A0Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-link\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t<span>Tweetlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"ss-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\"><path d=\"M18.244 2.25h3.308l-7.227 8.26 8.502 11.24H16.17l-5.214-6.817L4.99 21.75H1.68l7.73-8.835L1.254 2.25H8.08l4.713 6.231zm-1.161 17.52h1.833L7.084 4.126H5.117z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t<\/div><!-- END .ss-ctt-wrapper -->\n\n\t\t\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"the-3-ps-concept\">3 Ps konsepti<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Kederle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131karken bu \u00fc\u00e7 yarars\u0131z tuzaktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmak \u00f6nemlidir. Psikolog Martin Seligman bunlar\u0131, insanlar\u0131n keder gibi dramatik olaylar\u0131n \u00fcstesinden gelmesini engelleyen \u00fc\u00e7 \u00f6zellik olarak tan\u0131mlam\u0131\u015ft\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"1-personalization\">1. Ki\u015fiselle\u015ftirme <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Ki\u015fiselle\u015ftirme \u015fu inan\u00e7t\u0131r <em>Biz<\/em> hatal\u0131y\u0131z. Farkl\u0131 bir \u015fey yapabilirdik ve sonu\u00e7 farkl\u0131 olurdu. Ama belli ki bu bizim hatam\u0131z de\u011fil. Her zaman davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z gibi davran\u0131yorduk ve ba\u015fka t\u00fcrl\u00fc de davranmazd\u0131k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ba\u015flar\u0131na gelen k\u00f6t\u00fc olaylar i\u00e7in kendilerini su\u00e7layan insanlar, bu olaylar\u0131n kendi hatalar\u0131 olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131na inananlara g\u00f6re \u00e7ok daha zor atlat\u0131rlar.  <\/p>\n\n\n\t\t<div class=\"ss-ctt-wrapper ss-ctt-style-4\" data-ss-post-id=\"2286\" data-nonce=\"e9beab50f7\">\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CNot+everything+that+happens+to+us+happens+because+of+us.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95%C2%A0Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-tweet\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">\"Ba\u015f\u0131m\u0131za gelen her \u015fey bizim y\u00fcz\u00fcm\u00fczden gelmiyor.\"&nbsp;<\/span><br style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">-&nbsp;<\/span><span class=\"authorOrTitle\" style=\", Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size: 14px\">Sheryl Sandberg #optionb<\/span><\/a>\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CNot+everything+that+happens+to+us+happens+because+of+us.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95%C2%A0Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-link\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t<span>Tweetlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"ss-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\"><path d=\"M18.244 2.25h3.308l-7.227 8.26 8.502 11.24H16.17l-5.214-6.817L4.99 21.75H1.68l7.73-8.835L1.254 2.25H8.08l4.713 6.231zm-1.161 17.52h1.833L7.084 4.126H5.117z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t<\/div><!-- END .ss-ctt-wrapper -->\n\n\t\t\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"2-pervasiveness\">2. Yayg\u0131nl\u0131k  <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Yayg\u0131nl\u0131k, bir trajedinin hayat\u0131n her alan\u0131na dokunaca\u011f\u0131 varsay\u0131m\u0131n\u0131 ifade eder.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yayg\u0131nl\u0131k, bu olay\u0131n hayat\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n t\u00fcm alanlar\u0131n\u0131 etkileyece\u011fi inanc\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bu berbat, bu berbat ve di\u011fer \u015fey de berbat. K\u00f6pe\u011finiz \u00f6ld\u00fc ve \u015fimdi i\u015finizin hi\u00e7bir yere gitmedi\u011fini, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n sizi sevmedi\u011fini ve spor tak\u0131m\u0131n\u0131z\u0131n muhtemelen kaybedece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcyorsunuz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu sadece psikolojik bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131... ger\u00e7ekli\u011fe dayanm\u0131yor. Ancak bu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnce tarz\u0131ndan ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131n, bir s\u00fctun t\u00fcm kaleyi y\u0131kmayacakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"3-permanence\">3. Kal\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k  <\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Kal\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k, k\u00f6t\u00fc bir durumun asla daha iyiye gitmeyece\u011fi varsay\u0131m\u0131d\u0131r. Olaylar\u0131n art\u00e7\u0131 \u015foklar\u0131n\u0131n sonsuza kadar s\u00fcrece\u011fi inanc\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>K\u0131z ya da erkek arkada\u015f\u0131m\u0131z bizden ilk ayr\u0131ld\u0131\u011f\u0131nda hissetti\u011fimiz ve bir daha mutlu olmay\u0131 hayal bile edemedi\u011fimiz duygu. Ama tabii ki bu noktada o ki\u015finin ad\u0131n\u0131 bile hat\u0131rlam\u0131yoruz. Ve tap\u0131na\u011f\u0131n kal\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 dolab\u0131m\u0131zdaki di\u011fer \u0131v\u0131r z\u0131v\u0131r\u0131n alt\u0131na g\u00f6m\u00fclm\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr. Zaman t\u00fcm yaralar\u0131 iyile\u015ftirir ve g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duygular g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc kaybeder. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kal\u0131c\u0131l\u0131kla m\u00fccadele etmek zor bir d\u00fc\u015fman olabilir, bunu yapmak i\u00e7in zaman yolculu\u011funu kullanmak zorunda kalabilirsiniz, ancak sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir zihniyete sahip olmak i\u00e7in hat\u0131rlamak ve odaklanmak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p> \"Ya\u015fland\u0131k\u00e7a mutlulu\u011fu daha az heyecan, daha \u00e7ok huzur olarak tan\u0131mlar\u0131z. Rahip Veronica Goines bunu \u015f\u00f6yle \u00f6zetliyor: \"Huzur, dinlenmekte olan ne\u015fedir; ne\u015fe ise ayaklar\u0131 \u00fczerinde duran huzurdur.\"\u00a0 <\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k olu\u015fturmak i\u00e7in. Sandberg \u00fc\u00e7 Ps'den ka\u00e7\u0131nmas\u0131 gerekti\u011fini anlad\u0131. Bu en az\u0131ndan ilk ba\u015fta zordu. Ba\u015flang\u0131\u00e7ta Dave'in \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc i\u00e7in kendini su\u00e7lad\u0131. Ancak Dave'in neredeyse an\u0131nda \u00f6ld\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011frendi\u011finde bunu a\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\t\t<div class=\"ss-ctt-wrapper ss-ctt-style-4\" data-ss-post-id=\"2286\" data-nonce=\"e9beab50f7\">\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CLet+me+fall+if+I+must+fall.+The+one+I+become+will+catch+me.%E2%80%9D+Slowly%2C%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95+Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-tweet\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">\"D\u00fc\u015fmem gerekiyorsa b\u0131rak d\u00fc\u015feyim. D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm ki\u015fi beni yakalayacakt\u0131r.\" Yava\u015f\u00e7a,\"&nbsp;<br><\/span><font color=\"#181818\" face=\"Merriweather, Georgia, serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 14px\">- Sheryl Sandberg #optionb<\/span><\/font><br style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\"><\/a>\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CLet+me+fall+if+I+must+fall.+The+one+I+become+will+catch+me.%E2%80%9D+Slowly%2C%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95+Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-link\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t<span>Tweetlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"ss-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\"><path d=\"M18.244 2.25h3.308l-7.227 8.26 8.502 11.24H16.17l-5.214-6.817L4.99 21.75H1.68l7.73-8.835L1.254 2.25H8.08l4.713 6.231zm-1.161 17.52h1.833L7.084 4.126H5.117z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t<\/div><!-- END .ss-ctt-wrapper -->\n\n\t\t\n\n\n<p>Yayg\u0131nl\u0131k ve kal\u0131c\u0131l\u0131k daha zordu \u00e7\u00fcnk\u00fc Sandberg'in sefaletten ba\u015fka bir \u015fey hissedebilece\u011fini hayal etmesi zordu. Bu y\u00fczden Sandberg bu s\u00fcre zarf\u0131nda olumluya odaklanmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131. Ba\u015fta \u00e7ocuklar\u0131 olmak \u00fczere hayat\u0131ndaki t\u00fcm iyi \u015feyler i\u00e7in minnettarl\u0131k duyan bir tutum geli\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>\"Dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k i\u00e7imizin derinliklerinden ve d\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131zdaki destekten gelir. Hayat\u0131m\u0131zdaki iyi \u015feyler i\u00e7in \u015f\u00fckretmekten ve k\u00f6t\u00fc \u015feylere boyun e\u011fmekten gelir. Kederi nas\u0131l i\u015fledi\u011fimizi analiz etmekten ve bu kederi basit\u00e7e kabul etmekten gelir. Bazen d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcm\u00fczden daha az kontrol sahibiyizdir. Di\u011fer zamanlarda daha fazlas\u0131na sahibiz. Hayat sizi dibe \u00e7ekti\u011finde, dibe tekme atabilece\u011finizi, y\u00fczeyi k\u0131rabilece\u011finizi ve tekrar nefes alabilece\u011finizi \u00f6\u011frendim.\" <\/p>\n<cite>- Sheryl Sandberg<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Grant ona, psikolojik ara\u015ft\u0131rmalar\u0131n, minnettarl\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131 y\u00fcksek sesle ifade eden insanlar\u0131n, olumsuzluklar \u00fczerinde duranlara g\u00f6re daha mutlu olduklar\u0131 fikrini destekledi\u011fini s\u00f6yledi. Ve ona minnettar hissetti\u011fi \u015feyleri yazmak gibi egzersizler \u00f6nerdi. Bu \u015feyler k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ya da \u00f6nemsiz g\u00f6r\u00fcnse bile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sandberg'in kocas\u0131n\u0131n \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonraki ilk aylarda \u00e7ok zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir \u015fey de di\u011fer insanlarla ya da en az\u0131ndan baz\u0131 insanlarla etkile\u015fim kurmakt\u0131. Baz\u0131 insanlar tam olarak ne s\u00f6yleyeceklerini biliyormu\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrken, di\u011ferleri onun trajedisini tamamen g\u00f6rmezden geldi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dave'in \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fc, \u00f6zellikle i\u015f yerinde, odadaki fil gibiydi. Sandberg, insanlar\u0131n onu \u00fczmek istemedikleri i\u00e7in bu konuyu a\u00e7makta teredd\u00fct ettiklerini biliyordu ama o zaten \u00fczg\u00fcnd\u00fc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Dave'in \u00f6l\u00fcm\u00fcnden sonra annesi bir ay boyunca onunla kalm\u0131\u015f. Erkek karde\u015fi alt\u0131 ay boyunca onu her g\u00fcn arad\u0131. Yas tutarken en karanl\u0131k anlar\u0131nda bile sevildi\u011fini hisseden Sandberg, kendine \u015fefkat g\u00f6stermeyi ve affetmeyi \u00f6\u011frendi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p> \"\u00d6\u011frendi\u011fim en \u00f6nemli \u015feylerden biri, birini \u00f6ld\u00fckten sonra da ne kadar derinden sevmeye devam edebilece\u011finiz. Ona sar\u0131lamayabilir ya da onunla konu\u015famayabilirsiniz, hatta ba\u015fka biriyle \u00e7\u0131kabilir ya da onu sevebilirsiniz, ama yine de onu ayn\u0131 derecede sevebilirsiniz. Oyun yazar\u0131 Robert Woodruff Anderson bunu m\u00fckemmel bir \u015fekilde ifade etmi\u015ftir: \"\u00d6l\u00fcm bir hayat\u0131 sona erdirir ama bir ili\u015fkiyi sona erdirmez.\" \u00a0 <\/p>\n<cite>Sheryl Sandberg<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Muhtemelen bir destek istersiniz. Uzun bir g\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda, d\u00f6rt g\u00f6zle bekleyece\u011finiz bir \u015fey olsun istersiniz. Ve size d\u00f6rt g\u00f6zle bekleyecek bir \u015fey verirken ayn\u0131 zamanda psikolojik ve terap\u00f6tik faydalar da sa\u011flayan bir teknik var. G\u00fcn\u00fcn sonunda g\u00fcnl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz\u00fc \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131n ve \u015fu d\u00f6rt \u015feyi yaz\u0131n:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>1. 3 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck kazan\u0131m\u0131 listeleyin<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"Bug\u00fcn t\u00fcm e-postalar\u0131m\u0131 g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irdim \"den \"Birka\u00e7 bula\u015f\u0131k y\u0131kad\u0131m \"a kadar her \u015fey olabilir. Bu, sizi g\u00fcn i\u00e7indeki ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131za y\u00f6nlendirir ve hayat\u0131n bitmedi\u011fi ve hala ilerleyebilece\u011finiz fikrini daha da peki\u015ftirir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>2. Biraz g\u00fcnl\u00fck tut<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>O g\u00fcnle ilgili akl\u0131n\u0131za ne gelirse. Nas\u0131l hissettiniz, ne zaman hissettiniz, ne yapt\u0131n\u0131z. Bu sadece daha sonra okudu\u011funuzda ge\u00e7mi\u015fe bir yolculuk yapmakla kalmaz, ayn\u0131 zamanda tonlarca terap\u00f6tik faydas\u0131 da vard\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>3. Ne i\u00e7in minnettar oldu\u011funuzu yaz\u0131n<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u015fey ve bir b\u00fcy\u00fck \u015fey. Sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131m i\u00e7in minnettar\u0131m ve kullanabilece\u011fim bir arabam oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in minnettar\u0131m. Minnettarl\u0131k her zaman sa\u011fl\u0131kl\u0131 bir bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131 getirir, sahip olduklar\u0131n\u0131z i\u00e7in \u015f\u00fckretmenizi sa\u011flar ve size her \u015feyin \u00e7ok daha k\u00f6t\u00fc olabilece\u011fini hat\u0131rlat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>4. Ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u00fc\u00e7 sevin\u00e7 an\u0131n\u0131 yaz\u0131n<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u0130\u015f arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131zla g\u00fcld\u00fcn\u00fcz m\u00fc? \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131z size komik bir soru sordu mu? G\u00fczel bir g\u00fcnde d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131n\u0131z m\u0131? Bu anlar\u0131 not edin ve kendinize hayattaki olaylardan hala keyif alabilece\u011finizi hat\u0131rlat\u0131n. Bunu kaybetmedi\u011finizi. Ayr\u0131ca, \u00f6zellikle daha sonra defteri g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irdi\u011finizde, e\u011flenceli zamanlar\u0131n iyi bir hat\u0131rlat\u0131c\u0131s\u0131d\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\t\t<div class=\"ss-ctt-wrapper ss-ctt-style-4\" data-ss-post-id=\"2286\" data-nonce=\"e9beab50f7\">\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9Cgrounded+hope%E2%80%9D+is+the+understanding+that+if+you+take+action+you+can+make+things+better.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95%C2%A0Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-tweet\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">\"Temellendirilmi\u015f umut\", harekete ge\u00e7ti\u011finiz takdirde i\u015fleri daha iyi hale getirebilece\u011finize dair bir anlay\u0131\u015ft\u0131r.\"&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">-&nbsp;<\/span><span class=\"authorOrTitle\" style=\", Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size: 14px\">Sheryl Sandberg #optionb<\/span><br style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\"><\/a>\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9Cgrounded+hope%E2%80%9D+is+the+understanding+that+if+you+take+action+you+can+make+things+better.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95%C2%A0Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-link\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t<span>Tweetlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"ss-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\"><path d=\"M18.244 2.25h3.308l-7.227 8.26 8.502 11.24H16.17l-5.214-6.817L4.99 21.75H1.68l7.73-8.835L1.254 2.25H8.08l4.713 6.231zm-1.161 17.52h1.833L7.084 4.126H5.117z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t<\/div><!-- END .ss-ctt-wrapper -->\n\n\t\t\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"the-importance-of-control\">Kontrol\u00fcn \u00d6nemi<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Stres \u00fczerine yap\u0131lan klasik deneylerde, insanlar bulmaca \u00e7\u00f6zmek gibi konsantrasyon gerektiren g\u00f6revleri yerine getirirken, rastgele aral\u0131klarla rahats\u0131z edici derecede y\u00fcksek seslerle patlat\u0131ld\u0131lar. Terlemeye ba\u015flad\u0131lar, kalp at\u0131\u015f h\u0131zlar\u0131 ve kan bas\u0131n\u00e7lar\u0131 y\u00fckseldi. Odaklanmakta zorland\u0131lar ve hatalar yapt\u0131lar. Bir\u00e7o\u011fu o kadar hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frad\u0131 ki pes etti. Kayg\u0131y\u0131 azaltmak i\u00e7in ara\u015ft\u0131rmac\u0131lar baz\u0131 kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131lara bir ka\u00e7\u0131\u015f yolu verdi. G\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fc \u00e7ok rahats\u0131z edici hale gelirse, bir d\u00fc\u011fmeye basarak g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc durdurabileceklerdi. Elbette, d\u00fc\u011fme daha sakin kalmalar\u0131n\u0131, daha az hata yapmalar\u0131n\u0131 ve daha az k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k g\u00f6stermelerini sa\u011flad\u0131. Ancak \u015fa\u015f\u0131rt\u0131c\u0131 olan k\u0131s\u0131m, kat\u0131l\u0131mc\u0131lar\u0131n hi\u00e7birinin d\u00fc\u011fmeye ger\u00e7ekten basmam\u0131\u015f olmas\u0131yd\u0131. G\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc durdurmak bir fark yaratmad\u0131, <em>Bilmek<\/em> g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcy\u00fc durdurabilirlerdi.  Kontrol onlarda oldu\u011fu i\u00e7in strese dayanabildiler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kontrol sahibi olmak her zaman memnuniyette bir fakt\u00f6r olmu\u015ftur. \u0130\u015fler zor g\u00f6r\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde bas\u0131lacak bir d\u00fc\u011fmenin olmas\u0131 onlar\u0131 daha y\u00f6netilebilir hale getirir. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sheryl, hangi ruh sa\u011fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 kaynaklar\u0131na ula\u015fabilece\u011finizi bilmenizi ve gerekti\u011finde konu\u015fabilece\u011finizi bildi\u011finiz arkada\u015flar\u0131n\u0131z ve aileniz olmas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6nerir. D\u00fc\u011fmeye basmak zorunda kald\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z \u00e7ok fazla olursa, her zaman gidebilece\u011finiz ve dayanabilece\u011finiz Joe veya Pam'in oldu\u011funu kendinize tekrarlay\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00d6zetlemek gerekirse, kederle ba\u015fa \u00e7\u0131karken ki\u015fiselle\u015ftirme, yayg\u0131nl\u0131k ve kal\u0131c\u0131l\u0131ktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmak \u00f6nemlidir. Kendinize 3 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck kazan\u0131m, minnettar oldu\u011funuz 2 \u015fey, 3 sevin\u00e7 an\u0131 yazarak ve g\u00fcnl\u00fck tutarak destek verin. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k \u00e7ok artt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda basabilece\u011finiz bir d\u00fc\u011fme olup olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ara\u015ft\u0131r\u0131n ve bilin. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"post-traumatic-growth\"><strong>Travma Sonras\u0131 B\u00fcy\u00fcme<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Grant ve Pennsylvania \u00dcniversitesi'ndeki meslekta\u015flar\u0131, travma sonras\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcmenin be\u015f \u015fekli oldu\u011funu iddia ediyor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Ki\u015fisel g\u00fc\u00e7 bulmak<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Takdir kazanma (travmadan sonra ne\u015fe farkl\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr - travmatik olmayan bir g\u00fcn harika bir g\u00fcnd\u00fcr)<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Daha derin ili\u015fkiler kurmak (\u00f6z\u00fc olan arkada\u015flara odaklanmak) ve<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Hayatta daha fazla anlam ke\u015ffetmek ve yeni olas\u0131l\u0131klar g\u00f6rmek.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\t\t<div class=\"ss-ctt-wrapper ss-ctt-style-4\" data-ss-post-id=\"2286\" data-nonce=\"e9beab50f7\">\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CI+am+more+vulnerable+than+I+thought%2C+but+much+stronger+than+I+ever+imagined.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95+Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-tweet\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">\"D\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcmden daha savunmas\u0131z ama hayal etti\u011fimden \u00e7ok daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fcy\u00fcm.\"&nbsp;<br><\/span><font color=\"#181818\" face=\"Merriweather, Georgia, serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 14px\">- Sheryl Sandberg #optionb<\/span><\/font><br style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\"><\/a>\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CI+am+more+vulnerable+than+I+thought%2C+but+much+stronger+than+I+ever+imagined.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95+Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-link\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t<span>Tweetlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"ss-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\"><path d=\"M18.244 2.25h3.308l-7.227 8.26 8.502 11.24H16.17l-5.214-6.817L4.99 21.75H1.68l7.73-8.835L1.254 2.25H8.08l4.713 6.231zm-1.161 17.52h1.833L7.084 4.126H5.117z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t<\/div><!-- END .ss-ctt-wrapper -->\n\n\t\t\n\n\n<p>Sandberg, Grant'in bu konudaki konu\u015fmas\u0131n\u0131 ilk duydu\u011funda bunun bir aldatmaca oldu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc s\u00f6yl\u00fcyor. Sonra Grant ona kendi tavsiyesini tekrarlam\u0131\u015f. Grant ona, \"S\u0131k s\u0131k insanlar\u0131n g\u00f6remedikleri \u015feyi olamayacaklar\u0131n\u0131 iddia ediyorsunuz,\" dedi. \"E\u011fer b\u00fcy\u00fcmenin m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funu g\u00f6rmezsen, onu bulamazs\u0131n.\" O da aramaya karar verdi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"Travma sonras\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fcme\" kula\u011fa isteyebilece\u011finiz bir \u015feymi\u015f gibi geliyor; \u00f6yle de\u011fil. Bu sadece k\u00f6t\u00fc bir durumdan en iyi \u015fekilde yararlanmak ya da Sandberg'in dedi\u011fi gibi B se\u00e7ene\u011finin can\u0131na okumakt\u0131r. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>\"Trajedi kap\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 k\u0131rar ve sizi esir al\u0131r. Ka\u00e7mak \u00e7aba ve enerji gerektirir. Zorluklarla y\u00fczle\u015ftikten sonra ne\u015feyi aramak, sizden \u00e7al\u0131nan \u015feyi geri almakt\u0131r.\" <\/p>\n<cite>- Sheryl Sandberg<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>Onu geri almak Herk\u00fcl'e \u00f6zg\u00fc bir ba\u015far\u0131 gibi gelebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"how-children-build-resilience\"><strong>\u00c7ocuklar Nas\u0131l Dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k Olu\u015fturur?<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Dayan\u0131kl\u0131l\u0131k olu\u015fturmak, \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n sahip oldu\u011fu f\u0131rsatlara ve ebeveynleri, bak\u0131c\u0131lar\u0131, \u00f6\u011fretmenleri ve arkada\u015flar\u0131yla kurduklar\u0131 ili\u015fkilere ba\u011fl\u0131d\u0131r. \u00c7ocuklar\u0131n d\u00f6rt temel inanc\u0131 geli\u015ftirmelerine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olarak ba\u015flayabiliriz: <\/p>\n\n\n\n<ol class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Hayatlar\u0131 \u00fczerinde biraz kontrolleri var <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131ktan ders \u00e7\u0131karabilirler<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u0130nsan olarak \u00f6nemlidirler<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>G\u00fcvenebilecekleri ve payla\u015fabilecekleri ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7leri var<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<p>Sandberg'in \u00e7ocuklara nas\u0131l yard\u0131m edilece\u011fine dair en b\u00fcy\u00fck arma\u011fan\u0131, kendisinin ve \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n\u0131n olu\u015fturdu\u011fu aile kurallar\u0131d\u0131r. Bu kurallar hem yas tutan hem de yas tutmayan \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in son derece g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir rehber niteli\u011finde. Yazd\u0131klar\u0131 \u00e7izelge, hayatlar\u0131na n\u00fcfuz eden \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc, \u00f6fke ve kayb\u0131 hissetmeleri i\u00e7in onlara izin veriyor. \u00d6z-\u015fefkat ve affedicili\u011fi te\u015fvik ediyor ve ortaya \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131nda mutlulu\u011fa izin veriyor. Belki de en \u00f6nemlisi, ihtiya\u00e7 duyduklar\u0131nda yard\u0131m istemeleri konusunda \u0131srar ediyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sandberg bize \"\u00e7ifte \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc \"n\u00fcn g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc \u00f6\u011fretiyor - \u00f6fke sizi ele ge\u00e7irdi\u011finde h\u0131zl\u0131ca \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemek ve ard\u0131ndan \"yans\u0131tma\" ya da di\u011fer ki\u015finin onayland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 hissetmesini sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in nas\u0131l hissetti\u011fini \u00f6zetlemek. Bu, k\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 bir liderlik kamp\u0131na g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde \u00f6\u011frendi\u011fi bir \u015fey. \"Geri al\u0131yoruz\", \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcn\u00fcn de Dave'i hat\u0131rlatan \u015feylerden vazge\u00e7mek yerine onlar\u0131 hayatlar\u0131n\u0131n dokusuna dahil etmenin bir yolu olarak geli\u015ftirdikleri bir mantra oldu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\">\n<p>\"Kendimize mutlu olmak i\u00e7in izin vermek - su\u00e7luluk duygusunu bir kenara itip ne\u015fe araman\u0131n sorun olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kabul etmek - kal\u0131c\u0131l\u0131\u011fa kar\u015f\u0131 kazan\u0131lm\u0131\u015f bir zaferdir\"<\/p>\n<cite>- Sheryl Sandberg<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\t\t<div class=\"ss-ctt-wrapper ss-ctt-style-4\" data-ss-post-id=\"2286\" data-nonce=\"e9beab50f7\">\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CWe+see+the+potential+for+good+in+others+and+gain+hope+that+we+can+survive+and+rebuild.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95+Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-tweet\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\">\"Ba\u015fkalar\u0131ndaki iyilik potansiyelini g\u00f6r\u00fcyor ve hayatta kal\u0131p yeniden in\u015fa edebilece\u011fimize dair umut kazan\u0131yoruz.\"&nbsp;<br><\/span><font color=\"#181818\" face=\"Merriweather, Georgia, serif\"><span style=\"font-size: 14px\">- Sheryl Sandberg #optionb<\/span><\/font><br style=\"font-family: Merriweather, Georgia, serif;font-size: 14px\"><\/a>\n\n\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/intent\/tweet?text=%E2%80%9CWe+see+the+potential+for+good+in+others+and+gain+hope+that+we+can+survive+and+rebuild.%E2%80%9D%C2%A0%E2%80%95+Sheryl+Sandberg+%23optionb&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.getstoryshots.com%2Ftr%2Fwp-json%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fposts%2F2286&#038;via=storyshots&#038;related=storyshots\" class=\"ss-ctt-link\" data-title=\"Click to Tweet\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t<span>Tweetlemek i\u00e7in t\u0131klay\u0131n<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t<svg class=\"ss-svg-icon\" aria-hidden=\"true\" role=\"img\" focusable=\"false\" width=\"32\" height=\"32\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\"><path d=\"M18.244 2.25h3.308l-7.227 8.26 8.502 11.24H16.17l-5.214-6.817L4.99 21.75H1.68l7.73-8.835L1.254 2.25H8.08l4.713 6.231zm-1.161 17.52h1.833L7.084 4.126H5.117z\"><\/path><\/svg>\t\t\t<\/a>\n\n\t\t<\/div><!-- END .ss-ctt-wrapper -->\n\n\t\t\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>Ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in sesli kitab\u0131 edinin <a href=\"https:\/\/geni.us\/option-b\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u00dcCRETS\u0130Z<\/a> ya da kitab\u0131 buradan alabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Se\u00e7enek B'nin \u00f6zetinden ne \u00f6\u011frendiniz? En be\u011fendi\u011finiz \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131m neydi? Neye kat\u0131lm\u0131yorsunuz? A\u015fa\u011f\u0131ya yorum yap\u0131n veya bize tweet at\u0131n <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/storyshots\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">@storyshots<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\" id=\"related-book-summaries\"><strong>\u0130lgili Kitap \u00d6zetleri<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/emotional-intelligence-20-summary\/\">Duygusal Zeka 2.0<\/a> taraf\u0131ndan Travis Bradberry (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/ovLY\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/grit-summary\/\">Cesaret<\/a> Angela Duckworth taraf\u0131ndan (<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/uRoo\" target=\"_blank\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/feeling-good-summary\/\">\u0130yi Hissetmek<\/a> David D. Burns, M.D. taraf\u0131ndan (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/Ud43\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/open-book-summary\/\">A\u00e7\u0131k Kitap<\/a> Jessica Simpson taraf\u0131ndan (<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/wNQv\" target=\"_blank\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/cant-hurt-me-summary\/\" target=\"_blank\">Bana Zarar Veremezsin<\/a> David Goggins taraf\u0131ndan (<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/yPBd\" target=\"_blank\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/unfuk-yourself-summary\/\">Unfu*k Yourself<\/a> Gary John Bishop taraf\u0131ndan (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/anEy\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/you-are-a-badass-summary\/\">Sen Bir Ba\u015f Belas\u0131s\u0131n<\/a> Jen Sincero taraf\u0131ndan (<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/vCzw\" target=\"_blank\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Amanda Ripley'den Ak\u0131l Almaz (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/zCrg\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/crucial-conversations-summary\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">\u00d6nemli G\u00f6r\u00fc\u015fmeler<\/a> Kerry Patterson taraf\u0131ndan (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/cbBY\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. (<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/Kzsz\" target=\"_blank\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/tr\/books\/the-great-influenza-summary\/\" target=\"_blank\">B\u00fcy\u00fck Grip<\/a> John M. Barry taraf\u0131ndan (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/ULNo\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Daniel Goleman'dan Sosyal Zeka (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/srfA\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sheryl Sandberg taraf\u0131ndan yaz\u0131lan Lean In (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/hEYqwMNxWVTyjHRy8\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Adam Grant, Sheryl Sandberg (<a href=\"https:\/\/go.getstoryshots.com\/rdsNcgfGVyQfDrYf8\">Uygulamada a\u00e7\u0131n<\/a>) <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-medium\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"260\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-1-260x300.jpg\" alt=\"Se\u00e7enek B \u00f6zeti\" class=\"wp-image-2293\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-1-260x300.jpg 260w, https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-1-886x1024.jpg 886w, https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-1-768x887.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.getstoryshots.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/Option-B-summary-1.jpg 1080w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 260px) 100vw, 260px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\"> B Se\u00e7ene\u011finin \u00d6zeti <\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-css-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p>\u015eu kaynaktan uyarlanm\u0131\u015ft\u0131r <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/channel\/UCtLCUKVNlYQmxD-CNpDKBbw\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Dong Lemus<\/a> ve <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=rxies31e72s\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Ortalama Optimize Edilmi\u015f<\/a> YouTube kanallar\u0131, <a href=\"https:\/\/qz.com\/964570\/review-sheryl-sandbergs-new-book-option-b-deals-with-her-husbands-death-through-an-intimate-guide-to-grief\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Kuvars<\/a> kitap incelemesi ve <a href=\"https:\/\/optionb.org\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Se\u00e7enek B<\/a> web sitesi. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hayat \u00e7ok yo\u011fun. B se\u00e7ene\u011fi kitapl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131zda toz mu topluyor? Bunun yerine, temel fikirleri \u015fimdi al\u0131n. Biz burada y\u00fczeyi \u00e7iziyoruz. Kitaba hen\u00fcz sahip de\u011filseniz, kitab\u0131 sipari\u015f edin veya ilgin\u00e7 ayr\u0131nt\u0131lar\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenmek i\u00e7in sesli kitab\u0131 \u00fccretsiz edinin. B Se\u00e7ene\u011fi Kitab\u0131 Ne Hakk\u0131nda? 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