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Do you want to become truly intelligent and individual? You are used to being spoon-fed information from parents, teachers, and friends. When you were young, you learned to accept this information without any doubt or questioning. The ‘knowledge’ you formed about the world was not based on your thinking. Therefore, you must abandon all the packets of information you have accepted without questioning. Then, you need to start relying on data and rational thinking. This is the key to freedom!
Shwetabh Gangwar spent years helping people to solve their problems. In the process, he identified simple patterns that regularly cropped up. Everyone’s problems could be solved with a set of principles and perspectives that emphasized people taking control of their own lives.
This is called ‘The Rudest Book Ever’ because it doesn’t spare feelings. It tells you exactly as it is. It can teach you to become more emotionally self-reliant and to curb the influence of others. Let’s dive into The Rudest Book Ever summary.
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About Shwetabh Gangwar
Shwetabh Gangwar is a novelist, public speaker, and professional problem-solver. He has millions of social media followers. People send him their problems and he solves them with complete dedication, creating as many videos as possible.
Gangwar is known for his honest and valuable content and arguments on various topics that many ignore. This has earned him both hate and praise.
He is often called a ‘men’s rights advocate’ but is not a fan of the label.
StoryShot #1: You Have to Learn How to Think
You may often have found yourself thinking that people are idiots. But no one is born an idiot. Rather, we unknowingly choose to be idiots, since we aren’t shown the techniques of how to think.
A person who is brought up being told what to think will, in general, accept those thoughts. However, someone raised to think will, in general, question them. Adults are merely children who have grown in age. Adults still fall into the same trap of copying what others think rather than thinking for themselves.
If you are used to being told what to think, you will feel compromised by external thoughts, events, or individuals. In contrast, if you know how to think, you will have a greater sense of control over the situation. You can break free from your societal programming and think authentically.
StoryShot #2: You Are a Product
We are all products. We are products that attach hope to the idea that we will someday choose our dream careers and relationships. However, no matter who we are, the world will exploit us. It does not matter if you are rich, highly intelligent, or talented. We are taught to be reliant on the world for our identity.
From a young age, we are taught what to think rather than how to think. Therefore, instead of finding our own solutions to life’s problems, we ask others for solutions. But you can learn to find your own solutions instead! If you learn how to think, you can better solve your problems. Instead of relying on Google or other people to answer your problems, you should make a habit of trying to solve them yourself.
StoryShot #3: You Want to Be Special
The idea of being special excites nearly all of us. You must have imagined situations in which everybody around you would tell you that you’re amazing and treat you like you’re special.
Let’s say your colleagues or friends think that you are unique. Even your parents have told you that you are special.
So does one become special when others say so?
The straight answer is no. People aren’t qualified enough to decide whether someone is special or not.
You cannot achieve specialness in life from a single event. Current events quickly become the past. To feel special, focus on garnering achievements, both personal and professional.
Gangwar says that specialness is something you earn. You have to ask yourself if you are unique or not by closing your eyes. Your “self” will offer you the correct answer. Ask yourself.
Specialness is the badge of realization you earn. Don’t seek the acceptance and approval of others for your specialness. Instead, you should feel special when you upgrade in life after mastering a skill. Earn specialness by showing yourself that you can solve problems without input. The key to doing this is working hard, staying disciplined, and remaining focused on your overarching goal.
StoryShot #4: Knowledge and Intelligence Are Different
Society emphasizes the importance of knowing more. However, you should be placing less importance on this idea. There is a clear difference between knowledge and intelligence. Having knowledge is much less important than being able to think for yourself.
Technology is advancing at a rapid rate. Therefore, knowledgeable people will no longer be effective in a year or two. What they think now won’t be relevant in the future. But those who have learned how to think will adapt to the evolution of technology.
StoryShot #5: Rejections Are Normal
Rejection is a common experience and happens to everybody at some point in their lives. But when you experience rejection, you likely take it personally and act as if you’re the only one it has happened to.
Failures and rejections are the most important experiences for growth. We learn considerably more when things go wrong than when we are successful. However, if we do not know how to deal with rejections and failures, these failures will psychologically shape us.
Rejections will continue throughout your lifetime. You probably felt rejection strongest when you were young. It may have been that teacher you wanted to be noticed by, who somehow always moved past you as if you were non-existent.
Rejections are normal. Whenever you don’t achieve something you care about, you feel it reflects badly on you. You judge yourself and beat yourself up for it. You must break this chain of self-harm, knowing that failures, losses, and rejections are normal. Doing so directs all those negative emotions into something useful. You will feel less miserable once you’ve adopted the idea that ‘failures are normal.’ This is the foundational principle in winning at life.
Although failures are typical, that doesn’t mean they don’t matter. But real winning means minimizing losses as much as you can. Start to see rejection as a way to improve yourself.
StoryShot #6: Understand that People Are Weird
People are weird. Weirdness is neither positive nor negative. Weirdness is a more accurate portrayal of humans. The characteristics we attribute to humans are mainly based on whether their actions are negative or positive. Therefore, humans are better described as ‘weird’.
Why is the idea that ‘people are weird’ necessary for your growth? It is far better than having delusional perceptions. Your perception of something can create false expectations.
To avoid creating such perceptions, keep the following in mind:
- Data. Knowledge comes from data. Remind yourself of this.
- First impressions are fake. Make a conscious effort to dissolve the images your brain makes of people. They don’t come from data but from how you perceive the planet. Instead of relying on first impressions for judgments, you should look at the actions of the person. Wait until you have gathered enough real-life data to form genuine judgments.
- People are weird. Avoid making false assumptions, keeping this in mind.
- We sleep in a world of marketing. Anybody can sell you anything, especially when there are no data.
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