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الملخص
First Things First: To Live, To Love, To Laugh, To Leave a Legacy offers simple solutions for corporate and family life. It’s all about balance while still meeting your goals. Covey distinguishes his ideas from traditional time management theories. He compares the difference between efficiency and setting priorities with a compass and a clock. How fast you go is not as important as where you’re going. On top of this, Covey reveals a step-by-step pathway for living with fairness, integrity, honesty, and human dignity. These are principles that give us the security to adapt to change. Plus, provide the wisdom and power to take advantage of the opportunities that change creates.
وجهة نظر ستيفن كوفي
Stephen Covey is the well-known author of the seven Habits of Highly Effective People. He is an internationally respected leadership authority, family expert, teacher, organizational consultant, and author. He is also one of Time Magazine’s 25 most influential Americans. Dr. Covey holds the Jon M. Huntsman Presidential Chair in Leadership at the Huntsman School of Business at Utah State University. The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People has now sold over 20 million copies.
“What we believe about ourselves and our purpose has a powerful impact on how we live, how we love, and what we learn.”
- ستيفن كوفي
The Clock and the Compass
“Basing our happiness on our ability to control everything is futile. While we do control our choice of action, we cannot control the consequences of our choices.”
- ستيفن كوفي
The clock and the compass are not about doing things right. Instead, they are about doing the right things. Covey starts with a personal example. His daughter, feeling frustrated while taking care of her third child, asks for advice. His answer is to relax and enjoy the nature of this new experience. Don’t even keep a schedule. Forget your calendar. This baby is the first thing in your life. The author reveals that our struggles can be characterized by the contrast between two powerful tools that direct us: the clock and the compass.
The Clock
The clock represents our commitments, appointments, schedules, goals, and activities. Plus, what we do with and how we manage our time. If the clock guides us, we are guided by making decisions daily, hourly, and moment-to-moment. The clock governs most people. They are guided by the urgency of tasks rather than the end goal. The effect of being governed by the clock is a reactionary, urgent lifestyle that leads to work and life stress, burnout, and crisis management. An easy way to tell if you live your life by the clock is considering whether you are focused on daily planning and prioritization. If you are doing this, you live with emergencies and crises as your foundation. You are pushing out important, but not urgent, activity through daily planning.
The Compass
The compass represents our vision, values, principles, mission, conscience, and direction. It constitutes what we feel is vital in how we lead our lives. The struggle comes when we sense a gap between the clock and the compass. The pain of this gap can be more or less intense. It can make some people feel empty despite their success. Therefore, if you focus more on your compass, you will come to notice your principles are governing your daily, hourly, and moment-to-moment decisions. You will start to learn greater humility and understand you are not always in control. In doing so, you can create a highly educated conscience and, ultimately, keep your first things first.
Generations of Time Management
“When we talk about time management, it seems ridiculous to worry about speed before direction, about saving minutes when we may be wasting years.”
- ستيفن كوفي
Most people relate to one of the three generations of time management. The first generation is based on reminders and is characterized by simple notes and checklists. The second generation is planning and preparation, characterized by calendars and appointment books. The third generation approach is planning, prioritizing, and controlling. These three generations of time management have a positive impact. However, the gap between what is deeply important to people and how they spend their time remains. There’s a need for a fourth generation. We need to move beyond time management to life leadership. This fourth-generation would create results for a better quality of life. Some of us get used to the adrenaline rush of handling crises. Essentially, we become dependent on crises for a sense of excitement and energy. Urgency addiction is a self-destructive behavior that temporarily fills the void created by unmet needs. Urgency addiction is as dangerous as other dependencies, such as addiction to chemical substances, gambling, or overeating. It is essential to realize that urgency itself is not the problem. Instead, the problem is that importance isn’t the dominant factor in our lives when urgency is.
The Eisenhower Decision Matrix
“I have two kinds of problems, the urgent and the important. The urgent are not important, and the important are never urgent.”
-Dwight D. Eisenhower
The Four Quadrants
According to the author, we spend time in one of the four quadrants in the diagram above. Quadrant one represents things that are both urgent and important. Quadrant two includes essential activities that are not urgent (the quadrant of quality). Quadrant three includes urgent things, but not critical things (the quadrant of deception). Quadrant four is non-urgent and non-important activities (the quadrant of waste). The fundamental concept of the book is spending most of our time in quadrant 2. We have to ask ourselves, ‘What are first things’? To answer this question, we must first examine humans’ needs and principles.
The Four Human Needs
Stephen outlines the four human needs within the book’s title. Fulfillment of the four human needs is captured in the phrase, ‘To live, to love, to learn, to leave legacy.’ The need to live is our physical need for food, clothing, and shelter. The need to love is our social need to relate to other people. The need to learn is our mental need to develop and grow. The need to leave a legacy is our spiritual need to have a sense of meaning, purpose, and contribution. Any of these needs being left unmet can drive you to urgency addiction. The key to meeting an unmet need is in addressing rather than ignoring the other needs. The way we seek to fulfill these needs is as essential as fulfilling them.
Examples of the Four Quadrants
Here are the four quadrants with examples:
- Important/Urgent tasks should be done immediately and personally. Examples of these tasks would be personal crises, tight deadlines, or tough problems.
- Important/Not Urgent tasks should have an end date and done personally. Examples of these tasks would be relationships, planning, and recreation.
- Unimportant/Urgent tasks should generally be delegated to other people. Examples of these tasks would be meetings or activities that are neither personal nor critical.
- Unimportant/Not Urgent tasks should always be dropped. Examples of these tasks would be trivial activities not related to your principles or goals. Often these tasks will waste your time with few rewards.
True North Principles
“Principles govern consequences, and values govern behavior, therefore, value principles!”
- ستيفن كوفي
How to Incorporate True North Principles
True North principles are a prevailing theme within First Things First. True North principles are a character ethic. They are universal and timeless, meaning the principles are independent of us. These principles deal with things that create happiness and quality of life results. The quadrant two organizing process is the process of putting first things first. It is like a garden which needs a gardener. We have to plant, water, cultivate and weed it regularly if we want to enjoy the harvest. According to Covey, daily planning gives us a limited view. At the same time, weekly organizing provides a broader approach to what we do. When you organize the coming week, the first step is to connect with what is most important in your life. List three or four things you would consider ‘first’ things in your life. Then, identify your roles at work, in the family, and in the community. Much of our pain in life comes from the sense that we succeed in one role at others’ expense. The next step is to select quadrant two goals in each role and create a framework for the week. Start with a big rock, followed by pebbles, and fill the rest with sand. Your daily tasks should keep first things first while navigating through the day’s unexpected opportunities and challenges. Equally important is the balance of roles. Each role is vitally important.
Do Not Compensate with Your Success
Success in one role can’t justify failure in another. Business success can’t justify failure in marriage. Success in the community can’t justify failure as a parent. Success or failure in any role contributes to the quality of every other role in life. Balance leads to abundance. We may plan our week perfectly. However, unexpected things happen all the time. Therefore, we need to choose how to repeatedly react to the call for urgency. The moment of choice is the moment of truth—a testing point of our character and competence. Over time, our choices become habits of the heart and affect our time. The integrity in the moment of choice includes three parts: asking with intent, listening without excuse, and acting with courage.
The Synergy of Interdependence
“There’s no way we can escape accountability. We do make a difference—one way or the other. We are responsible for the impact of our lives.”
- ستيفن كوفي
The synergy of interdependence is about how our character and competence affect our ability to work with people. Our greatest joy and our most overwhelming pains come from relationships with others. Our roles are interdependent: we are husbands, wives, parents, friends, bosses, employees, co-workers, friends, citizens. Interdependence redefines importance. The fourth-generation paradigm puts people first and things second. Leadership first and management second. Effectiveness first and efficiency second. Purpose first and structure second. Vision first and method second.
Principle-Centered Living
“Principles are the simplicity on the far side of complexity.”
- ستيفن كوفي
Questions to Guide Your Life
The author explains that our thoughts are first thing to change. If we live in a quadrant-true way, we can see our daily tasks more clearly. We realize that we provide an opportunity for growth and improvement. On a typical Monday morning, you see your list of things and must decide how to handle the tasks. One useful approach would be to ask yourself the following questions:
- Which of these activities is most important?
- What can I safely postpone?
- What can I delegate?
- What can I get out of doing?
- What can I do more quickly?
The Fourth Generation Approach
The fourth-generation approach is different. Rather than focusing on activities and appointments, you see your day in terms of people and relationships. It’s not only a matter of when to do things but whether to do them at all. Most of us expect to be able to go through a day and accomplish what we planned. As a result, when an unexpected challenge comes up, frustration arises. We see people as interruptions, and we view change as the enemy. However, great things can happen if your expectations change. We should see problems as opportunities to help others. Plus, view each day as an exciting new adventure. Through adopting these approaches, some of our choices become turning points in our lives. These are times when putting first things first makes all the difference. Our two greatest gifts are time and freedom of choice. The key is not spending time but investing it in people, empowerment, meaningful projects, and causes. Like any capital resource, if we spend it, it’s gone; if we invest it, we increase our inheritance.
تدور النظرية الحية المرتكزة على المبدأ حول تحويل عقليتنا من إدارة الوقت إلى القيادة الفردية بسبب هذه الميزات الأساسية. لذلك، بدلًا من مجرد حل التحديات اليومية، يمكنك بناء روابط وعلاقات قوية. وعلى خلفية ذلك، يمكنك الكشف عن الفرصة لإعادة تنظيم أفكارك. وفي المقابل، يمكنك تقليل مقدار التفكير المطلوب لحل المشكلة. يجب عليك أيضًا أن تدرك أن مبدأك يجب أن يخضع للتحسين المستمر. يجب علينا أن نقبل تفردنا. يجب أن نقبل أننا نعمل بشكل مستقل عن الآخرين. ومع ذلك، يجب علينا أيضًا أن نقبل أننا مترابطون. إن التحول إلى الاعتماد المتبادل لا يعني تفويض المهام للآخرين أو معاملتهم بشكل منفصل. يوفر العيش المرتكز على المبدأ الوحدة والثراء والتواصل والاتصال والعفوية والسعادة.
The Fundamentals of Determining the ‘First Things’ in Your Life
يقدم كوفي في هذا الكتاب ثلاث طرق مختصرة لتحديد الأشياء الأولى في حياتك. وهم ما يلي:
- تحتاج إلى تلبية الاحتياجات الإنسانية الأربعة، بناءً على تسلسل ماسلو الهرمي للاحتياجات. وهي: العيش (جسدي)، والحب (اجتماعي)، والتعلم (عقلي)، والإرث (المعنى والهدف). وسيتم إنتاج شعور مشترك بالإلحاح إذا لم يتم تلبية أي من هذه الاحتياجات.
- كما ذكرنا سابقًا، الشمال الحقيقي هو كناية عن المبادئ الأبدية التي تبقى عبر الزمن وتغيرات المجتمع. وتشمل هذه النزاهة والتواضع والشجاعة والعدالة والخدمة والمعاملة بالمثل. يجب عليك التمسك بهذه المبادئ والتفكير في كيفية تطبيقها على حياتك.
- سيكون من المفيد أن تفكر في مواهبك، والتي تسمح لنا في النهاية بالاختيار بين التحفيز والاستجابة. وهذه المواهب، بما في ذلك الوعي الذاتي والضمير والخيال الإبداعي، تزودنا بالقدرة على الاختيار والتغيير.
Examples of Developing Human Endowments
بعد ذلك، يقدم كوفي أمثلة واضحة وقابلة للتنفيذ حول كيفية تطوير قدراتك البشرية:
- حاول الاحتفاظ بمذكرة شخصية. هذا نشاط رفيع المستوى في الربع الثاني.
- عليك أن تستمر في التعلم طوال حياتك. لذا، استمع للآخرين، وخاصة أولئك المختلفين عنك. الرد على النقاط التي أدلى بها الناس بشكل منتج. بالإضافة إلى ذلك، حاول أن تقرأ بقدر ما تستطيع.
- قطع الوعود لنفسك وللآخرين. والأهم من ذلك، تأكد من الاحتفاظ بها دائمًا حيثما أمكن ذلك.
- التأمل والاستماع إلى صوتك الداخلي. دعها ترشدك وتساعدك في الحفاظ على الشمال الحقيقي.
- تنمية الخيال الإبداعي من خلال تصور الأفكار والمستقبل. تأكد من أن هذه التصورات تتضمن مبادئك الحقيقية.
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